A Not So Brief Lesbian Marriage

We tried so many times to get legal in our 31-year relationship. We called it a marriage way before marriage equality was a reality for lesbians and gay men. Way before our "real"/ legal marriage, we believed and deeply felt, only death would part us. Like many (most?) couples, we played with our familiar mantra: "Promise I get to die first," "No, I go first!" (My separation anxiety is more extreme.) "Ok... but I get to die five minutes later," she graciously agreed. We never imagined the marriage would die first. We tried to marry many times in our 31 years together -- domestic partnerships, a San Francisco city hall marriage that was quickly annulled, and finally our longed for legal w

Rachel Wahba is a writer, psychotherapist, and co-founder of Olivia Travel/Companies. An Iraqi -Egyptian Jew, born in India, she grew up in Japan. 

The many dimensions of 

displacement and exile are a constant theme in her work as a writer, therapist, and in her activism as a Mizrahi Jew who grew up stateless. 

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