Rachel Wahba

We tried so many times to get legal in our 31-year relationship. We called it a marriage way before marriage equality was a reality for lesbians and gay men. Way before our "real"/ legal marriage, we believed and deeply felt, only death would part us. Like many (most?) couples, we played with our familiar mantra: "Promise I get to die first," "No, I go first!" (My separation anxiety is more extreme.) "Ok... but I get to die five minutes later," she graciously agreed. We n